10 Things every female should have or experience before she turns 40.

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Time flies when you’re living life. I blinked and the next thing I knew I was turning 20! I blinked again and I was turning 30! What is a girl supposed to do! With work, family, friends and drama we sometimes miss out and forget to stop and smell the roses. I remember for years I was in severe “work mode” and I realized one day that I did not have a SINGLE summer memory of myself doing anything for YEARS! NO BUENO SEÑORITA!! Forget smelling roses, I didn’t smell bouquets!!! How could I be so careless to myself! Now I have made a promise to myself that I will live, do, have and experience things so I have lots to keep and look back on. So to make things simple here is a list of what I feel every woman should experience or own by the time they turn 40. Well, at least for myself, so here we go…

  1. Travel somewhere alone. Now I’m not saying go backpacking by yourself for a month halfway across the world although that is awesome and I recommend it. That’s not for everyone or for everyone’s budget. I’m saying even if there is a town, a city or just anywhere go alone! Go camping alone! You don’t need to for a month or a week, even just a day or two. You will be amazed what you will learn and experience about yourself. pexels-photo-386140
  2. Splurge on something for yourself. Drop that money like its hot for your one and only… meaning YOURSELF! Whether it’s a handbag, shoes, jacket whatever it is DO IT!!! You live once and you can always make money. And besides you deserve it! Spoil yourself, we all deserve that special something.
  3.  Attend a gala or charity event. Everyone needs to feel like a princess every once in a while. It doesn’t need to be limited to only prom or your wedding day. We all need a night where we can wear a fabulous gown and feel like Cinderella once again in our lives. I remember my first gala I thought I was going to hate it because it seemed stuffy and intimidating but I actually had a wonderful night. I met such kind and interesting people (as you would anywhere) but at least I looked fancy and had lots of photos to show off. 😉
  4. Own stemmed wine glasses. I went through this phase where I wanted to be ultra trendy and super cool and different and decided to get wine glasses without stems. You know the kind that every guy owns in their bachelor pad. Well ladies we are more classy than that and ladies only drink wine out of stemmed glasses. It’s just more classic and appropriate for wine. Just saying…  pexels-photo-696219
  5. Create a photo album. Now people constantly post photos online with Instagram and Facebook and a number of us (me being one of them) forget to take the time and print some of those amazing photos and putting them into an album like the good old days. Remember the days when our parents would hold onto this amazing book with all of these memories that go back for many decades and generations. Wasn’t it a much better experience than looking at these moments and holding these photos in your hand and not on a phone or screen. Everyone should have at least one amazing photo album on their coffee table or shelf.
  6. Do a photo shoot. This a ballsey one but its great. Years ago my friend convinced me to do a bikini shoot. I was on a diet and I was feeling good about myself and she convinced me to do it. As terrified as I was I DID IT!! I literally was shaking and immensely nervous. It was definitely out of my comfort zone but after a few minutes I was having fun with it. And now years later I look back and I think DAMN GIRL!!! I can’t believe it’s me in some of those photos! (not to sound cocky but I’m really really glad that’s me in that photo!) As intimidating as it may be just do it! It doesn’t need to be a bikini shoot. My friend did a glamorous shoot which looked very 1940’s and she looked absolutely stunning. She even has one photo enlarged in her bedroom. It should be on the cover of a magazine. She did it, I did it and you should to! So strike a pose!
  7. Do something that scares you. I will be the first to admit that I am the world’s biggest chicken. I’m afraid of the dark, I’m afraid heights, I’m afraid bees, I’m afraid of anything that goes too fast. I should just be cluck cluck clucking all day long. But I HATE being scared and force myself to face it. It also gives me a sense of accomplishment like I climbed Mount Everest.  I went camping out in the dark, I couldn’t even see my hand in front of me in my tent. I have gone bungee jumping which was great but I will never do again. I have gotten stung by a bee hence why I’m still scared and I have driven a car on the autobahn. As much as these things scare me, I HATE being scared even more. I like to command and conquer. You don’t need to be crazy and do these things all the time, but challenge yourself and just face your fear once! You’ll be amazed how much your fear is more mind over matter. The adrenaline and sense of accomplishment after will be all worth it.
  8. Experience a culture completely different from your own. I love to travel. I will happily blow all my money on a flight and backpack and just experience the world all day every day. Take one trip wherever it may be where you don’t understand the language, you never tried the food, never heard the music and can’t pronounce a single word. My friend went to Japan last year and he LOVED IT! He said it was the best trip he had ever been on and he learned so much about himself and the people and culture. Education is amazing and knowledge is very powerful. However don’t under-estimate the knowledge gained when you open your mind to other parts of the world and experience different cultures and people. You will wise beyond your years.
  9. Volunteer. Not because the courts made you but because you want to! I volunteer and its something I look forward to every week. You will be surprised with the overwhelming feeling you get once you know you have done something good for someone or for society. It’s a beautiful gift you can give at not cost. If you can’t do it on the regular, you should at least do it once. You’ll be amazing with how much you will gain by giving. It’s wonderful.
  10. And at last…. complete a DIY project. Yes, you little miss handy pants! Whether it’s a jewelry box, a chair, or a painting. You be the creator from step one. You will be surprised what you are capable of and YES you can do it! My friend made cute jewelry for herself just for fun. She would always wear it when we went out and people would ask where she got it. Did you know she now has a business!!! I’m not saying we all will make a business from what we make. However there should be one amazing Goliath project we have set to challenge ourselves to do. My friend fixed up a car completely on his own. I made for myself a dress. It was a pain in the ass but I was very impressed with my sewing skills and show it off on the regular. You will be amazed with what you can create and once you are done you will be so proud you will want to show it off to everyone and their dog!floor-flooring-hand-man-1388944

This list is for every girl who just needs an idea of what to do when she has a chance to stop and smell the roses. Live life in the moment and enjoy! If you stress about the future you will be anxious. If you constantly relive the past you will get depressed. If you live in the present, well… you’re living! Isn’t that just an amazing gift! How lucky are you! Don’t get into the tunnel vision I had been in with work and look back and not have a single moment to enjoy for years!! I owe living to myself as you do to you! I hope this list gives you some ideas and I hope you can share what you do.

What do you think you should experience or own before you turn 40  or even 20 or 50 when you finally have a chance to stop and smell the roses?

CandidBlonde

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Designer Handbags VS “Designer Inspired” Handbags

I love handbags. I think every female is guilty of this love. I own the Chanel Classic Flap, the Chloe Faye Bag, the iconic Celine Medium Luggage, and the Chanel Boy Bag. Just kidding! I don’t own any of those. But I must say each of those bags are drool worthy. I personally do love the Chanel Classic Flap in caviar leather and silver hardware. A great classic piece for anyone’s wardrobe. Are these bags beautiful? Hell ya! Are they good quality, for that price duhh! However can we all spend $5,000 on a purse? Not really and some who can just don’t want to. It’s all a matter of what we rather spend our hard earned cash on. So why not look into the “designer inspired” bag for much much less.

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I have to say the “Designer Inspired” bags have become more common in stores such as “Topshop“, “Forever21” “Zara” and H&M“. And with online shopping it is even easier to purchase a great “designer inspired” bag. I think they are great if you just like the style for now and don’t see the reason to invest thousand’s of dollars in one bag.  For a fraction of the price you can still have the “look” the authentic bags offer.

There are also the dare I say “knock offs”. I know a lot of people are against “knock offs” and almost everyone has an opinion on the subject. However I don’t care if someone buys a knock off. It is their money and their pergogative. And if designers want to charge items for thousands of dollars for a bag it’s simply the risk they need to take in the fashion crazy world we live in.

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I have a “designer inspired” Celine purse from BAGINC.COM and I LOVE it! It’s made with leather and it’s greatquality for the price. And I know if it gets scratched I won’t be too stressed about it. That pieace of mind is worth the savings for me. Also, I purchased a Burberry handbag which I LOOOOVVEEE  and it’s also well made however I do get paranoid the leather or the hardware will get scrathced since I paid big bucks for that baby! Although I do love the bag and don’t have any regrets over how much I spent  it can be a mental  pain in the ass. Especially if you’re like me who likes to keep her things in mint condition. It reminds me when I got my brand new car and I was a wreck any scratch or bump was on it.

I guess it’s all up to what the customer wants. If we want to invest in a designer bag, why not! If we want to buy a “designer inspired” bag, why not! It’s our money and I’ll buy what I want too! PHEW!

What do you think about designer handbags and “designer inspired” handbags?

CandidBlonde

 

 

 

 

Quick fixes for the busy girl and always look fab!

I have always been a busy bee and running from one job to the next and from one client to the second. If you’re a person like me, you literally DO NOT have time to even run a comb through your hair sometimes. (Sad but true)  Here are a few tips that I have learned to always look and feel polished on days when I have 3 hours of sleep, and I rather save my time to go get my latte than style my hair.

  1. Dry Shampoo! This is literally one of the most amazing inventions ever created. My hair is very fine and thin and overly processed so I only wash my hair every three to four days. What saves me to always have my hair look and feel fresh is dry shampoo. I love the brand Oribe and Klorane.

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2. Red lipstick.  A little color is the best little “POP” to freshen your look. Nights when I literally sleep three hours and feel and look so tired I just put on some red lipstick and I’m ready to go. I love MAC‘s “Russian Red” and NARS ” in “Cruella”.
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3. Messy bun.  A quick trendy look. It always looks clean and stylish and looks great for the office or anywhere you go. The messy bun is literally my hair “go-to” when I am on the run and have a million things to do. It keeps my hair out of my way and I don’t need to keep running a brush through it like I do when its down.  The messy bun is the best hair do when you are on the run and have a go-go day.

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3. Insta-dry nail polish.  Of course you have the option to not color your nails but its pretty boring, and being girly I like to have a little color on my nails. The best product out there which I use ALL the time is “Insta-dri” nail polish. It dries in literally 2 min. I leave it in my purse to re-apply if it chips and it’s only $3.00 at WalMart. When I don’t have time to go get a manicure and wait 30 min for my nails to dry at home because I have laundry to do. This is the best “go-to” nail polish on the market for a $3.00 steal.

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4. White eyeliner.  This is great to open your eyes and make your eyes look fresh even with little sleep. My favorite brand is Paula Dorf in “baby eyes”. Since I have small eyes this also helps my eyes look larger and fresh and clean.

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These are my favorite go-to’s when I’m on the go and have little time to polish myself. Hope these tricks help you save time and look fab with or without sleep and coffee. 🙂

 

CandidBlonde

 

Pros and Cons when ordering from China

Majority of people (including myself) always prefer to save a buck or two, especially when it comes to personal shopping. We are always looking for the best deal and online shopping has given us various options and price comparisons with just a click of a button. One poplar option is buying items from www.rosegal.com or www.madeinchina.com They have awesome deals with purses for $7.00 or amazing dresses for $25.00. But… the question is… Do we get what we pay for? Is it too good to be true? Or.. is it a bargain?

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First let’s start with the good.

PROS

  1. Prices. Prices on purchases from China are much much muuuuch cheaper! I have purchased a wool jacket for $30.00. You can always find great items which are affordable for much less than what you would pay regular retail.
  2. Trends. Sometimes you are looking for that special top in that specific color or style. Most likely with 1000s of online stores to purchase from, you will find what you are looking for.
  3. Knockoffs. Oops! Did I say that… I mean…… yaaa I mean knockoffs. Let’s face it, not all of us can afford an authentic Celine purse, or Gucci wallet. Online stores give us that perfect immitation of the iconic Burberry pattern for only $10 if that is what we are looking to add into our wardrobe, or a Louis Vuitton purse for $50. Not everyone is looking for authenticity or quality.

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So with the good there is always the bad. And here it is..

CONS

1. Visibility. Buying online you literally have no idea what you are purchasing and putting your trust in a photo and a description. You don’t have the opportunity to try it on, or feel the material. A garment may not come out in the color or size as you intended. You are almost shopping in the dark and hoping for the best.

2. Sizes. I consider myself a petite person and purchasing clothes from China may work in my advantage. However I find myself still opting into a larger size. Most sizes from these sites are much smaller and when you wait three weeks to receive your order and it doesn’t fit it can be a blow.

3. Shipping and handling. I literally have had to wait for almost a month to receive my order. So if you need an outfit for an event coming up soon, make sure you give yourself enough time because it will take time until you receive your order. And depending on the supplier I sometimes have had to pay for shipping. Sometimes a $10 shirt can come out to  be $100 so be careful.

4. Quality. To be completely honest the quality of the garments are not the best. You literally get K-Mart quality. If you are looking for intricate stitching and good quality material, shopping online is not your best route.

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TIPS

  1. Always be prepared to buy a size or two larger. Most clothes from these sites are much smaller than what you would find at the GAP.
  2. Always check return policies. Not all sellers allow refunds and the last thing you want is to be stuck with something you don’t want.
  3. Low expectations. Don’t expect to buy a Prada bag with Prada quality. It’s more of a Prada bag for a Walmart price and quality.
  4. Research! Always do research and price comparisons on other sites and other suppliers. And always read reviews. They give a great perspective on what you should expect from your purchase.

 

What’s your experience with shopping on these sites?

CandidBlonde